Defiant Children - Learn How To Control Them Fast

Badly behaved children have a tendency to upset those closest to them. And they can also hurt those on a social level. These kids appear to be somewhat out of control. To get a handle on the situation there are a few simple steps you can use.

Praise What Should Be Praised

This is pretty difficult to do but you need to try and praise your child on a regular basis for the good they do rather than the bad. Kids react really well to positive parenting. The more attention they get from this behavior the more they want to do it without you even asking. A bit of reverse psychology going on and it works.

Do Not Put Your Child Down

At the point of furious frustration it is very easy to put your child down. Most parents can do this by calling their child names or by telling them how much they are disliked. I can't tell you enough of how damaging this behavior is. This is going to hurt your child in the short and long term. Consistent and repetitive behavior like this will cause low self esteem. In turn this can lead to depression.

Screaming, ranting and raving isn't going to stop the behavior. And it will of course make it 1o times worse. This parenting style has never worked before and it certainly won't work now.

No matter how hard the situation is, you have to become bigger than moment. Don't let it consume you into the point of having your own adult tantrum. Lead by example and they will follow.

Introduce Mannerism

It surprises me that so many parents don't encourage simple or basic manners. A child can learn so many behaviors before they even speak. There is no reason why they can't learn to say Please and Thank you.

Mannerism teaches your child respect, empathy and compassion. They learn that adults are to be respected not feared. (there is a big difference here). They learn that elderly people are precious and that animals need to be taken care of. It all starts with the basic conduct of manners.