As you may know children have temper tantrums for all sorts of reasons. And one of those reasons may be because of a lack of sleep. You know yourself how bothersome the day can become when you are exhausted. A child suffering from sleep deprivation also suffers the same feelings if not worse in some cases.
Children's Night Lights can help relax a child into a preferred pattern of successful sleeping habits. Some lights come with various themes which also work in your favor to create a sense of tranquility and peaceful rest. Children who suffer from nightmares can also benefit a great deal from the use of such lights.
Some childrens nightlights have specialty safety features that allow for peace of mind. They have auto shut off benefits that work on motion and movement sensors. This is brilliant if you must tend to your child in the middle of the night. The light is bright enough to see where you are going yet dim enough not to wake your child completely.
Nightlights For Children can be purchased from a variety of specialist stores online. The cost of these lights will be reflective of the theme you choose if any as well as the choice of additional features and benefits.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Do Your Children's Friends Play A Part In Bad Behavior?
I certainly think to some degree that friends can have influence on your own child's behavior. Recently my 11 year old daughter had a few difficulties at school. Whereby a group of other girls in her class were bullying her friend!
I'm not saying my daughter is perfect by any means. She certainly has her bad behavior moments. But she stood by her friend. Through all the isolation, tears and so forth. I also backed my daughter and her friend, went to the school and said my piece about the other girls! (Being the over protective mother that I am!)
Anyways a couple of months down the track I noticed my daughter was becoming very grumpy. She seemed to be acting out more towards her brother and sister than normal.
I wasn't too sure if puberty was kicking in or whether things were going wrong at school again.
I wasn't prepared for what I was about to learn. A whole number of issues came to light about the girl she had befriended at school. I was in complete shock. Because I had realized that I made a huge mistake and judgment in character.
It turns out her friend continuously swears at her parents. She refuses to do general things they ask of her. And she is very argumentative. She calls them names, she tells them how much she hates them etc. She screams at her mum and dad more often than not.
One day my daughter had suggested that she apologize for what she said to her mum. Her friend replied with - "they can get stuffed". Then her friend began to attack the character of my husband and I.
My daughter became very upset by the whole thing and she was very hurt not only by her friend's behavior but by what she had said about us. As I said earlier being the over protective mother that I am - I stopped the friendship all together! I didn't want my child to be around another child who had bad behavior issues.
In my mind we had put far too much work in to our own children to let them be influenced by this type of behavior. Bet your knickers I was going to stop the friendship! I didn't want things to get out of control for our family all because of another child. Besides all of that my daughter was terribly hurt and upset.
Does it mean that I am too controlling? Or that I shouldn't have intervened?
Of course my answer is going to be NO!
Before I made the decision to stop the friendship. I sat my daughter down and explained what I thought of her friend's behavior. It was a complete open floor discussion. She was able to talk about her feelings, thoughts and views. There was no yelling or aggression involved.
At the end of the discussion we both came to the agreement that her friend wasn't a very nice person. And that she had other friends through social activities and at school who were a lot kinder. All in all it was a great result.
However, I don't know how well this will work when she reaches the age of sixteen!
Through this I really realized how lucky we are to have great kids! We put the hard yards into raising our children when they were young. And we have a huge amount of trust in our children.
Another friend of mine has a 14 year old. She was befriended by a 18 year who had left school with no qualifications and without a job. He dressed as a "Punk Rocker"(does anyone still use that term?) I hope someone knows what I mean. And he had no desires to achieve anything in his life.
Now I know we shouldn't judge people by their circumstances. But when it comes to our children maybe we should be more thorough. My friends daughter is now 16 with a 1 year old child. Where is her friend - long gone!
I'm not saying my daughter is perfect by any means. She certainly has her bad behavior moments. But she stood by her friend. Through all the isolation, tears and so forth. I also backed my daughter and her friend, went to the school and said my piece about the other girls! (Being the over protective mother that I am!)
Anyways a couple of months down the track I noticed my daughter was becoming very grumpy. She seemed to be acting out more towards her brother and sister than normal.
I wasn't too sure if puberty was kicking in or whether things were going wrong at school again.
I wasn't prepared for what I was about to learn. A whole number of issues came to light about the girl she had befriended at school. I was in complete shock. Because I had realized that I made a huge mistake and judgment in character.
It turns out her friend continuously swears at her parents. She refuses to do general things they ask of her. And she is very argumentative. She calls them names, she tells them how much she hates them etc. She screams at her mum and dad more often than not.
One day my daughter had suggested that she apologize for what she said to her mum. Her friend replied with - "they can get stuffed". Then her friend began to attack the character of my husband and I.
My daughter became very upset by the whole thing and she was very hurt not only by her friend's behavior but by what she had said about us. As I said earlier being the over protective mother that I am - I stopped the friendship all together! I didn't want my child to be around another child who had bad behavior issues.
In my mind we had put far too much work in to our own children to let them be influenced by this type of behavior. Bet your knickers I was going to stop the friendship! I didn't want things to get out of control for our family all because of another child. Besides all of that my daughter was terribly hurt and upset.
Does it mean that I am too controlling? Or that I shouldn't have intervened?
Of course my answer is going to be NO!
Before I made the decision to stop the friendship. I sat my daughter down and explained what I thought of her friend's behavior. It was a complete open floor discussion. She was able to talk about her feelings, thoughts and views. There was no yelling or aggression involved.
At the end of the discussion we both came to the agreement that her friend wasn't a very nice person. And that she had other friends through social activities and at school who were a lot kinder. All in all it was a great result.
However, I don't know how well this will work when she reaches the age of sixteen!
Through this I really realized how lucky we are to have great kids! We put the hard yards into raising our children when they were young. And we have a huge amount of trust in our children.
Another friend of mine has a 14 year old. She was befriended by a 18 year who had left school with no qualifications and without a job. He dressed as a "Punk Rocker"(does anyone still use that term?) I hope someone knows what I mean. And he had no desires to achieve anything in his life.
Now I know we shouldn't judge people by their circumstances. But when it comes to our children maybe we should be more thorough. My friends daughter is now 16 with a 1 year old child. Where is her friend - long gone!
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Defiant Children - Learn How To Control Them Fast
Badly behaved children have a tendency to upset those closest to them. And they can also hurt those on a social level. These kids appear to be somewhat out of control. To get a handle on the situation there are a few simple steps you can use.
Praise What Should Be Praised
This is pretty difficult to do but you need to try and praise your child on a regular basis for the good they do rather than the bad. Kids react really well to positive parenting. The more attention they get from this behavior the more they want to do it without you even asking. A bit of reverse psychology going on and it works.
Do Not Put Your Child Down
At the point of furious frustration it is very easy to put your child down. Most parents can do this by calling their child names or by telling them how much they are disliked. I can't tell you enough of how damaging this behavior is. This is going to hurt your child in the short and long term. Consistent and repetitive behavior like this will cause low self esteem. In turn this can lead to depression.
Screaming, ranting and raving isn't going to stop the behavior. And it will of course make it 1o times worse. This parenting style has never worked before and it certainly won't work now.
No matter how hard the situation is, you have to become bigger than moment. Don't let it consume you into the point of having your own adult tantrum. Lead by example and they will follow.
Introduce Mannerism
It surprises me that so many parents don't encourage simple or basic manners. A child can learn so many behaviors before they even speak. There is no reason why they can't learn to say Please and Thank you.
Mannerism teaches your child respect, empathy and compassion. They learn that adults are to be respected not feared. (there is a big difference here). They learn that elderly people are precious and that animals need to be taken care of. It all starts with the basic conduct of manners.
Praise What Should Be Praised
This is pretty difficult to do but you need to try and praise your child on a regular basis for the good they do rather than the bad. Kids react really well to positive parenting. The more attention they get from this behavior the more they want to do it without you even asking. A bit of reverse psychology going on and it works.
Do Not Put Your Child Down
At the point of furious frustration it is very easy to put your child down. Most parents can do this by calling their child names or by telling them how much they are disliked. I can't tell you enough of how damaging this behavior is. This is going to hurt your child in the short and long term. Consistent and repetitive behavior like this will cause low self esteem. In turn this can lead to depression.
Screaming, ranting and raving isn't going to stop the behavior. And it will of course make it 1o times worse. This parenting style has never worked before and it certainly won't work now.
No matter how hard the situation is, you have to become bigger than moment. Don't let it consume you into the point of having your own adult tantrum. Lead by example and they will follow.
Introduce Mannerism
It surprises me that so many parents don't encourage simple or basic manners. A child can learn so many behaviors before they even speak. There is no reason why they can't learn to say Please and Thank you.
Mannerism teaches your child respect, empathy and compassion. They learn that adults are to be respected not feared. (there is a big difference here). They learn that elderly people are precious and that animals need to be taken care of. It all starts with the basic conduct of manners.
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